Here are ten things you should know about getting married. (Courtesy of Glamour and MSN.com)
1. Your proposal — and wedding — may not be magical.
Your proposal and wedding day will undoubtedly be special and memorable. But there’s a caveat: You’ve spent so much time building up each moment in your head that when those moments come, they may be as awkward and un-perfect as any first-time experience, says Meredith Bodgas, weddings blogger at Merital Bliss. Relax — the “flaws” in your stories will end up being your favorite parts to recount.
2. A short engagement is a good idea if…
You’re a high-stress person who knows she’ll agonize over the details down to the last minute, changing your guest list, or refusing to make the final call on your flowers, your bridesmaid dresses, etc. Spare yourself the anxiety — and the flip-flopping — and get married sooner.
3. You might consider a longer engagement if…
You’re searching for a home while trying to plan a wedding, you have a baby, or you’re involved in any other highly time-consuming life commitments. Wedding planning takes up a lot of evenings and weekends, and if you’re going to be stretching yourself beyond your limits or actively reducing the quality of your life to get married sooner, reconsider your target date — for a better wedding and your sanity.
4. Once you choose a wedding date, stick to it.
“Your wedding date is the first anniversary you pick yourself, so you want to make sure you get it right,” Fusaro says. “So go ahead and take your time selecting the perfect date.” But don’t change it! It’s a big deal if you ask the members of your wedding party, who’ve requested time off and may also be involved in other friends’ weddings, to shift the date — if you switch to a different weekend, they may not even be available
5. Don’t go shopping for your wedding dress without doing these three key things.
First, be certain you really, truly know your budget so you won’t try on a dress you can’t ultimately afford. Second, make sure you know your venue so you’ll pick an appropriate dress. And third, pick your company wisely. (DON’T go with an entourage — too many opinions will drive you crazy.)
6. When wedding planning, get everything in writing.
Prevent nasty wedding budget surprises by getting all arrangements on paper. Reiterate oral agreements, especially with vendors who might not give you a contract, like your makeup artist, to make sure everyone’s on the same page and to ensure everyone stays honest.
7. Relax the day of your wedding.
You’ve been stressed for months, so take this one day for yourself and trust that you’ve made all the right decisions — and let everyone else handle the hiccups
8. You’ll find out things about him you didn’t know before…
…and they may leave you scratching your head asking, “Who’s this guy in my house?” Well, you’ve changed over the years, and that means your husband has too. It’s a good thing, and it’s part of the discovery of marriage — and chances are he’s thinking the same about you.
9. If you want to change your last name, you’re going to have to do a lot of paperwork.
You’ll have to change your license, Social Security card, passport, credit cards, IRS info, etc. If you don’t feel like tackling the job on your own, services like MissNowMrs will help you take care of it for a fee
10. Your partner should make you feel like a better person.
According to a study from the State University of New York at Stony Brook, the marriages that last are the ones in which your partner helps you expand your definition and value of yourself. We couldn’t agree more.
Again, thanks to Glamour and MSN.com. We hope this helps your transition from single to married life. For more great information like this contact us at Desert Music Entertainment DJs and Videography of Arizona and San Diego.